Finding Wholeness Through Heartache
We humans are capable of such deep love, and with that comes the potential to feel great pain and loss.
I read somewhere once that “grief is love with nowhere to go”. That sentence came to me at a time when I felt deep grief at being separated from somebody I love, and I couldn’t have thought of a more perfect explanation.
When we love, we humans tend to love with all our might.
If things fall apart that love can start to feel like hurt, anger, grief, rejection, frustration and insecurity. No wonder they say there’s a fine line between love and hate!
But does it have to be this way?
Why can’t we continue to love even if the other chooses not to? If grief is love with nowhere to go, let’s give it somewhere to go!
Let love be its own force, it’s own power, beyond all of the hurt and confusion that you feel. When you miss someone it means you love them. What a beautiful thing, to love.
I believe that if there is love, any difficulties that arise are often openings for a couple to grow together and connect more deeply, but both parties have to choose that path.
And if they don’t, just because they aren’t here doesn’t mean you can’t love them. And remember that you have someone who will always want, always need, and always thrive on your love - you.
We forget that the reason we love anyone is partly because of what we hold within ourselves. That love you feel comes from YOU. It is yours, you get to choose what to do with it. Yes, I absolutely believe that there are people who our heart and souls love more deeply than any other. I’ve experienced a love like that and I am happy to believe it exists. I have also found that I can feel that love no matter where he is because love never truly leaves. It doesn’t exist because somebody loves us back, or because they hold us as night, it is simply who we are. So how can we let that love radiate throughout other areas of our lives?
No doubt if you are experiencing any form of heartache there will be parts of you that hurt, that feel unloved, not good enough, unwanted or angry. This is where heartache can become a true gift. Can you find the courage to look at each of these pieces within you and see how you can make them feel better? You can experience your greatest moments of self acceptance and finding peace with who you are because of those somewhat darker times in life. It teaches you to choose yourself, to take care of yourself, to treat yourself more kindly, to find the joy in who you are again and to give yourself permission to love them anyway.
You can’t tell your heart to change its mind. Listen to what you are feeling and find the courage to love yourself through it. You are already “whole”.